random relationship observations

wsup !

so tonight's post is gonna be pretty random , but there are just a couple things on my mind that i've noticed some stuff about lately ..

first of all , random stuff about relationships . so i'm gonna say that i've had my fair share of experience in relationships , both good and bad [ althought a little more bad than good ] . but some of what i'm thinking about tonight is by observing other people , not just myself . you should be able to tell what's about me & what's not :]
so the first thing i've been thinking about is how you meet the person that you like or are dating . i've noticed that the people that you meet that have the best relationship potential are people who are a friend of a friend . i've definitely noticed that these people are usually more likely to have a functional relationship than people who you just meet randomly . i'll use my own life for examples . i'm not gonna use any names though :]
one boyfriend that i had i met randomly at the last dance of one year .. completely out of the blue started dancing with me & the attraction went from there . that relationship was pretty much stupid & didn't last very long . he was just not up to my standards & was only good for having fun with .
another boyfriend i met through another friend at one of his kickbacks . this relationship was one of the best i've ever been in & i really enjoyed it & i learned a lot from it . and what's even better is that i'm still friends with this ex .
i'm going through something like that right now , and i'm really realizing how much better it is to meet potential people this way . there are so many advantages to it : first of all you have a person who already knows them well and can tell you what kind of person they are . second of all if they're friends with your friend then the likelihood that you two will be compatible and have similar interests/personalities is really high . and you also have a person that can dish the dirt on them and tell you important stuff about their past & even talk to them if there's some kind of problem .
so basically , i think this way of meeting people is a lot more reliable than anything else .

the other thing about relationships that i've been thinking about is break-ups . i've recently gone through somewhat of a messy break-up , but it was only messy because i'm too nice of a person to be really blunt & tell a person straight up if i really don't like them , so my friends had to do the dirty work for me , which i know is an asshole move on my part , but hurting people is just something that i really can't do :/
but this part is not so much about me as it is about observing other people . i've kinda noticed that there are four kinds of people when it comes to break-ups , or four schools of thought on the matter :
direct breakers
the direct breakers are the people who , when they no longer want to be in a relationship , tell the person directly what went wrong or why they don't think the relationship is working out . this kind of person tends to sit the other person down , have a civil conversation about both sides of their relationship , and try to end it on a mutually friendly level . this type of person tends to retain some sort of friendship with their ex and are , in my opinion , the most mature and brave break-uppers
indirect breakers
the indirect breakers are people who , like me , can't stand to directly tell a person what's going on and why for fear of hurting their feelings or breaking their hearts . this kind of person will start to act a bit weird because they are contemplating how to do it without making it i a big scene [ because this kind of person usually hates confrontation ] . when they finally decide to do it , indirect breakers usually call the person & tell them quickly that they don't think it's gonna work out , but without really telling them why and what they did wrong , and immediately tell the other person that they should still be friends , whether they really want to or not . this kind of person usually needs the help of friends & stalls for a while before breaking up & generally avoids the other person after it's over
pussy breakers
pussy breakers are the people who , once they are no longer interested in a relationship , will just stop calling , stop texting back , and stop showing interest of any kind . this tends to leave the other person confused and hurt , but usually gives them a hint of what's about to come . after avoiding the other person for a while & pretending to be busy , the breaker will finally just come clean , but in a kind of hurtful way , and basically put the blame of the break up on the other person , telling them all of their faults & what they did wrong . this kind of person is usually either interested in someone else , cheating , or has just completely become bored/fed up with the other person . this kind of person is either just really cowardly or has little respect for the other person .
asshole breakers
the asshole breaker is the kind of person who does something completely hurtful or mean to break up with the other person . some examples include openly cheating on the other person , spurning them in public , and the infamous dump and run [ when dropping the other person off somewhere , quickly tell them you're done & speed off ] . this kind of breaker is not only an disrespectful and a coward , but is also just straight up a jerk . this person usually has no respect for the other person from the get-go and is usually the kind of person who has commitment issues . this is the worst possible kind of breaker , and early signs include mistreatment , an uncaring attitude around friends and a bad reputation . this person also usually has no exes who are still friends .

ok so that may have seemed like a long and pointless rant , but i find it really interesting how people break up with other people , and it's also interesting how people really do fall into categories like this .
but anywayss , that's all i wanted to say about that :]

after writing about all of that , i think i'm done for the night .. time to quit stalling & get back to my freaking 12 page poli sci paper :/
hope you enjoyed !

oohhhh and by the way , i am SO HAPPY . i realized today how blessed my life is . but that'll be a topic for later .
gnight :]

another night of hyperness

heyy !

so another day has passed , it's like 5 in the morning , and I CAN'T SLEEP .
but at least i have a lot to talk about :]

first of all , my sleeping schedule is so FUCKED . last night i slept at like 4 and woke up at 2 30 .. then watched fresh prince for 4 hourss :] ohhh will smith , you are a sexy/funny man ..
i really don't know how to get it back on track though .. it's really buggin me too cus i have finals this week and i really should sleep decent hours . i want to try the whole stay-up-one-whole-night-so-you'll-sleep-early-the-next-night thing , but i always get tired around 5 or 6 :/ and i've tried just laying down and trying to sleep around 11 , but my body just doesn't want to sleep . so i'm in a pickle :[

ooh i watched the sex and the city movie with carmeezie today .. it was SO GOOD ! i freaking loved it .. it was really entertaining despite its length & there were so many GASP moments .. and aww moments .. and hahahahahha moments :] all in all , i'd say it's a wonderful movie . i'm so glad i got into watching sex and the city this year .. i feel like this show totally completes me . carrie's ugly and dresses funny and miranda's an annoying dyke , but charlotte is the cutest thing and samantha is an inspiration :] in a lot of ways they mirror my friends .. jennessa's like carrie [ not saying she's ugly or dresses funny AT ALL ] because she's into the whole long relationship kinda thing ... i'm kinda like charlotte [ or so some people say ] because she's cute and silly and goes through a lot of bad relationships but is always optimistic . carmela's like samantha because she's a sex goddess :] and tori's kinda like miranda because her & kyle are like miranda & steve . ok now i feel really stupid . but whatever .. it's a good show :] i just hope none of us are single when we're in our 30s :/

some of my hyperness has already faded away .. this is a really good way to get rid of my energy . me gustaaaa :]
actually , now i'm so tired that i can't even think any more .. how funny !
this is a sign that i should go to sleep now ..
who knew that having a blog would be such a blessing :]

changing

hallo !

ok so i feel terrible right now .. i promised a certain someone [ who i really like ] that i wouldn't go to sleep super late .. and i lied :[
so rightttt after i do this , it's beddy byes time .
this has been one of the laziest days of my life .. i feel so useless :/
after getting back from san diego [ greatest city in the world ] this morning , i basically napped till like 6 and then watched i dream of jeannie and friends till now .. ohhh and had a game session with carmeezie :] can i just say i'm ADDICTED to brickbreaker !

so carmeezie just said something to me that got me thinking .. she said she's so proud of how i've turned around since last quarter . if anyone has been here or heard about the stuff i did last quarter , they'd know what she means .. if not , maybe it's for the better ..
but anyways , i'm actually really proud and happy with the changes that have happened to me .. i feel like i've become a lot more mature and have straightened out my morals and priorities . i think a lot of it is just experiencing stuff that i was never exposed to before & being able to make my own decisions and mistakes . and now that i've seen what i'm capable of doing , i've fully realized what i want , which is a big step for me . so basically , GO ME !
:]

i like growing up .. these are exciting times .

i think this one's gonna be short .. it's getting super dee duper late & i should at least kinda try to keep my promise to that special person :]
GOOD NIGHTTTTTT !

to start us off

hola !

well this is awkward .. ok so here's what happened : i'm pulling another all nighter to study for my stupid poli sci final , which funnily enough is before finals week .. go figure :/ so i'm getting hyper & restless because , of course , i ate too much ice cream & the sugar's catching up with me .. so i'm leaving everyone ridiculously long facebook posts & generally freaking out because my brain won't calm down , when a wonderful friend of mine [ miss CARMEEZIE ] suggests that i start a blog .
how funny , because earlier we were making fun of her 50 kajillion different xangas & how i never succumbed to that trend .. but look where i am now :/
i'm gonna be straight up : i used to think blogs were stupid , and they were just for people with too much time on their hands or people who were so stuck up that they thought people actually wanted to read about their lives .
but now i see that it's a lot more than that .. well for some people .
it's a way to release pent up thoughts & stuff that just clutters up your brain , which makes it easier to focus on the task at hand : life .
so even though it will probably just be filled with random thoughts and revelations , midnight epiphanies and pointless rants , and the stupid little things that i say that make me oh so adorable [ right ? ] i still hope a few people will at times be bored enough to say , ohhhh shoot , doesn't sheva have a blog now ? i'm so desperately bored that i think i'll check it out .
who knows , i might have a few loyal followers who are intrigued by the thoughts i have , or at least who like me enough to wonder what i'm thinking about .

geeez , i would just like to stop to say that i'm NOT the writing type . emphasize not . when it comes to writing stuff for school , i CRINGEEEE .. but for some reason the thought of keeping something in which to write my random thoughts and just anything that flows out of my quickly moving fingers excites me and inspires me .. how weird :/

so for a little warning , for anyone who got this far [ maybe one or two of you ? ] : this blog will blow your mind if you keep up with it . because i don't intend to have any sort of recurring theme or a certain thing that i always talk about . i want to keep this as a sort of way to record my every thought , which will range from frustrated rants about school and relationships to philosophical ponderings to my fanatical activism in PETA to the every craving of my tummy :] so prepare to be shocked and confused . those of you who are a little slower may want to wear a helmet .

wellll looking back on what i've written so far , i realize that most people will take one look at this blog & be like EWWWW . but fear not , this is not gonna be a super serious blog .. those of you who know me know that it will be full of random pick up lines and stupid dane cook allusions :]

so sit back & enjoy . i'm waging war with boredom , and everyone likes to watch a fight .
oooh speaking of which , does anyone watch that mma stuff ? like ufc ? even though i don't watch that stuff , i'm a little curious and intrigued by it .. when i was doing tkd [ second degree black belt foooools ] i loved sparring .. it was just really fun to hit people , especially when you got in a kick that was so good that it knocked the other person down .. good stuff :]
so i think it'd be kind of fun to do that kind of stuff .. i'm always looking for reasons to hit people and bully them around in real life , so it would be sick to do that for a living .
i would say my signature move would be something that i already do . a lot . it's a very surprising move & takes everyone by surprise . what you do is when somebody you know is walking by or standing next to you , you suddenly straighten your arm and hit their chest really hard with your hand . it makes a really cool sound too ... like WHAPAAH ! it's quite effective :]

AHHHHHH that WHAPAAH i just let out reminded me of one of my great loves : GEORGE LOPEZ :] but my eye just started twitching , so i think that's a sign that i should get back to studying .. so that will be my topic for next time .

i love this stupid thing :] blogs are my new best friend [ sorry j ]