random relationship observations

wsup !

so tonight's post is gonna be pretty random , but there are just a couple things on my mind that i've noticed some stuff about lately ..

first of all , random stuff about relationships . so i'm gonna say that i've had my fair share of experience in relationships , both good and bad [ althought a little more bad than good ] . but some of what i'm thinking about tonight is by observing other people , not just myself . you should be able to tell what's about me & what's not :]
so the first thing i've been thinking about is how you meet the person that you like or are dating . i've noticed that the people that you meet that have the best relationship potential are people who are a friend of a friend . i've definitely noticed that these people are usually more likely to have a functional relationship than people who you just meet randomly . i'll use my own life for examples . i'm not gonna use any names though :]
one boyfriend that i had i met randomly at the last dance of one year .. completely out of the blue started dancing with me & the attraction went from there . that relationship was pretty much stupid & didn't last very long . he was just not up to my standards & was only good for having fun with .
another boyfriend i met through another friend at one of his kickbacks . this relationship was one of the best i've ever been in & i really enjoyed it & i learned a lot from it . and what's even better is that i'm still friends with this ex .
i'm going through something like that right now , and i'm really realizing how much better it is to meet potential people this way . there are so many advantages to it : first of all you have a person who already knows them well and can tell you what kind of person they are . second of all if they're friends with your friend then the likelihood that you two will be compatible and have similar interests/personalities is really high . and you also have a person that can dish the dirt on them and tell you important stuff about their past & even talk to them if there's some kind of problem .
so basically , i think this way of meeting people is a lot more reliable than anything else .

the other thing about relationships that i've been thinking about is break-ups . i've recently gone through somewhat of a messy break-up , but it was only messy because i'm too nice of a person to be really blunt & tell a person straight up if i really don't like them , so my friends had to do the dirty work for me , which i know is an asshole move on my part , but hurting people is just something that i really can't do :/
but this part is not so much about me as it is about observing other people . i've kinda noticed that there are four kinds of people when it comes to break-ups , or four schools of thought on the matter :
direct breakers
the direct breakers are the people who , when they no longer want to be in a relationship , tell the person directly what went wrong or why they don't think the relationship is working out . this kind of person tends to sit the other person down , have a civil conversation about both sides of their relationship , and try to end it on a mutually friendly level . this type of person tends to retain some sort of friendship with their ex and are , in my opinion , the most mature and brave break-uppers
indirect breakers
the indirect breakers are people who , like me , can't stand to directly tell a person what's going on and why for fear of hurting their feelings or breaking their hearts . this kind of person will start to act a bit weird because they are contemplating how to do it without making it i a big scene [ because this kind of person usually hates confrontation ] . when they finally decide to do it , indirect breakers usually call the person & tell them quickly that they don't think it's gonna work out , but without really telling them why and what they did wrong , and immediately tell the other person that they should still be friends , whether they really want to or not . this kind of person usually needs the help of friends & stalls for a while before breaking up & generally avoids the other person after it's over
pussy breakers
pussy breakers are the people who , once they are no longer interested in a relationship , will just stop calling , stop texting back , and stop showing interest of any kind . this tends to leave the other person confused and hurt , but usually gives them a hint of what's about to come . after avoiding the other person for a while & pretending to be busy , the breaker will finally just come clean , but in a kind of hurtful way , and basically put the blame of the break up on the other person , telling them all of their faults & what they did wrong . this kind of person is usually either interested in someone else , cheating , or has just completely become bored/fed up with the other person . this kind of person is either just really cowardly or has little respect for the other person .
asshole breakers
the asshole breaker is the kind of person who does something completely hurtful or mean to break up with the other person . some examples include openly cheating on the other person , spurning them in public , and the infamous dump and run [ when dropping the other person off somewhere , quickly tell them you're done & speed off ] . this kind of breaker is not only an disrespectful and a coward , but is also just straight up a jerk . this person usually has no respect for the other person from the get-go and is usually the kind of person who has commitment issues . this is the worst possible kind of breaker , and early signs include mistreatment , an uncaring attitude around friends and a bad reputation . this person also usually has no exes who are still friends .

ok so that may have seemed like a long and pointless rant , but i find it really interesting how people break up with other people , and it's also interesting how people really do fall into categories like this .
but anywayss , that's all i wanted to say about that :]

after writing about all of that , i think i'm done for the night .. time to quit stalling & get back to my freaking 12 page poli sci paper :/
hope you enjoyed !

oohhhh and by the way , i am SO HAPPY . i realized today how blessed my life is . but that'll be a topic for later .
gnight :]